10 Tips to Avoid Holiday Stress This Season

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The holidays are supposed to be magical.

That’s what the movies tell you, anyway. Picture-perfect dinners. Kids behaving like angels. Everyone gathered around the tree looking grateful and photogenic. Nobody fighting over parking spaces at Target or having a meltdown because the turkey’s dry.

Reality? You’re already tired just thinking about it.

There’s the shopping. The cooking. The hosting. The traveling. The forced smiling at relatives who ask why you’re still single or when you’re having another baby. The pretending you’re not calculating how much all of this is costing while your credit card weeps.

And somehow, in the middle of orchestrating everyone else’s perfect holiday, you’re supposed to also enjoy yourself. Feel the magic. Make memories. Be present.

Sure. Right after you finish wrapping 47 gifts, baking cookies for three different events, and figuring out how to cook a ham without YouTube.

Here’s what nobody mentions when they’re posting their gorgeous holiday content: the most wonderful time of the year is also the most exhausting. The most expensive. The most likely to make you want to fake the flu and hide in your bedroom until January.

But it doesn’t have to be a complete nightmare. You can actually get through the holidays without losing your mind, your savings, or your will to live.

Not by doing more. By doing less, and doing it smarter.

Let me show you how.

1. Give Yourself Permission to Do Less

This is the hardest one, so we’re starting here.

You don’t have to do everything. You don’t have to attend every event. You don’t have to make twelve types of cookies when two types (or store-bought, let’s be honest) would be fine. You don’t have to send cards to 200 people. You don’t have to decorate every room like it’s a holiday showroom.

The Pinterest version of the holidays isn’t real. Those women either have help, unlimited budgets, or they’re lying about how much they actually enjoy hot-gluing pinecones to things.

Decide right now what’s actually important to you. Not what looks good on social media. Not what your mother-in-law expects. What matters to YOU and your immediate family.

Maybe it’s one special Christmas Eve tradition. Maybe it’s making your grandma’s cookies. Maybe it’s just having everyone together without anyone crying or yelling.

Figure out your non-negotiables. Then let everything else be optional.

According to the American Psychological Association, 89% of adults say they feel stressed during the holidays, with financial pressure and lack of time being the top causes. You’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed. And you’re not required to be a holiday superhero.

When someone asks you to volunteer for another thing or attend another party, practice saying: “Thanks for thinking of me, but I can’t this year.” No explanation. No guilt. Just no.

Your sanity matters more than someone else’s bake sale.

2. Set a Budget (And Actually Stick to It)

Let’s talk about money, because this is where holiday stress gets real.

The average American spends over $1,000 on holiday shopping, decorations, and travel. If that number made your stomach drop, you’re not alone.

January credit card statements are depressing enough without adding holiday overspending to the mix.

Before you buy a single thing, sit down and write out your budget. Total amount you can spend without making Future You cry. Then divide it up: gifts, food, decorations, travel, everything.

Be ruthlessly honest. If you can only afford $50 per person, that’s what you can afford. If homemade gifts or gift cards are what fits your budget, do that.

Some ideas that won’t break you:

  • Suggest a family gift exchange where adults draw names instead of buying for everyone
  • Set a price limit and make sure everyone agrees to it
  • Give experiences instead of stuff (movie tickets, coffee gift cards, homemade coupon books for babysitting or help with projects)
  • Shop off-season sales and clearance year-round so you’re not panicking in December

Tell your family you’re scaling back this year. Real people who actually love you will understand. Anyone who makes you feel guilty about not spending money you don’t have can get a nice card and a smile.

Also? Kids don’t need 50 presents. They need like three things they actually want and your time. Save your money.

3. Start Early (Or Accept That You’re Starting Late)

If you’re reading this in November, start now. Today. Make your lists. Order your gifts online. Prep what you can.

If you’re reading this on December 23rd, accept that you’re not starting early. You’re starting late, and that’s fine. Do what you can with the time you have. Amazon Prime exists for a reason. Gift cards are perfectly acceptable. Nobody died from getting their presents a day late.

The goal isn’t perfection. It’s reducing that last-minute panic where you’re at the mall on Christmas Eve fighting someone for the last available gift in your price range.

Buy a little at a time if you can. Spreading purchases over two months instead of two weeks helps both your budget and your stress level.

And for the love of everything, wrap as you go. Do not leave all the wrapping for Christmas Eve night. That way lies madness and paper cuts.

4. Simplify Your Menu

You know what nobody remembers five years later? Whether you made four side dishes or six.

You know what they do remember? That you were so stressed and exhausted that you snapped at everyone and didn’t enjoy the meal you worked all day to make.

Pick a simpler menu. Make fewer dishes. Buy some things pre-made. Ask people to bring stuff potluck-style instead of doing it all yourself.

Here’s a secret: that fancy green bean casserole from scratch tastes basically the same as the one made with cream of mushroom soup from a can. The one from the can takes 10 minutes. The fancy one takes an hour.

Choose the can.

Make-ahead dishes are your friend. Anything you can prep the day before, do it. Cookie dough can be frozen weeks in advance. Casseroles can be assembled and refrigerated overnight. Embrace shortcuts.

And if you’re hosting and cooking is genuinely not your thing? Order the whole meal from a grocery store or restaurant. Seriously. Nobody will judge you, and if they do, they can host next year.

You’re allowed to prioritize your mental health over homemade everything.

5. Say No to Things You Don’t Want to Do

This is where the magic happens.

Your coworker’s ugly sweater party. Your neighbor’s cookie exchange. That thing your kid’s school needs volunteers for. The family gathering with relatives you don’t even like.

You can say no.

I know it feels impossible. You’ll disappoint people. They’ll think you’re not festive enough. They’ll wonder what’s wrong with you.

Let them wonder.

You have limited time and energy. Spending it on obligations you resent means you won’t have any left for things (and people) you actually care about.

Practice this phrase: “I appreciate the invitation, but I won’t be able to make it this year.”

You don’t owe anyone a detailed explanation. You don’t have to justify your choices. Just politely decline and move on.

The people who truly matter will understand. The people who guilt-trip you about it aren’t worth your energy.

Protect your time like it’s money, because it is. Once you spend it on something that drains you, you can’t get it back.

6. Lower Your Expectations (Like, Way Lower)

Pinterest lied to you. Instagram lied to you. Those holiday movies where everything works out perfectly? They lied to you too.

Real holiday gatherings involve:

  • Someone showing up late
  • Someone burning something
  • Someone getting drunk and saying something inappropriate
  • Someone bringing up politics
  • Kids melting down because they’re overstimulated
  • Adults melting down because they’re exhausted
  • At least one minor disaster (food, gifts, travel, something)

This is normal. This is how holidays actually go.

If you’re expecting everything to be perfect, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment and frustration. When things inevitably go wrong (and they will), you’ll lose it.

But if you expect some chaos? If you plan for things to be imperfect? You can roll with it. Maybe even laugh about it.

The goal isn’t a flawless holiday. It’s a holiday where you don’t completely lose your mind.

Lower the bar. Your mental health will thank you.

7. Take Care of Yourself (Yes, During the Holidays)

The American Heart Association warns that stress during the holidays can seriously impact your physical health, from raising blood pressure to disrupting sleep. You can’t pour from an empty cup and all that, but seriously – you can’t.

You still need sleep. You still need to eat actual meals (not just cookies and cheese plates). You still need to move your body. You still need breaks.

I know the holidays are busy. I know you have a million things to do. Do them while also taking care of yourself, or you’ll end up sick, exhausted, and miserable.

Practical ways to not fall apart:

  • Go to bed at a reasonable time, even when you have more to do (it’ll still be there tomorrow)
  • Drink water (not just wine and coffee, though those count too)
  • Eat protein and vegetables, not just sugar and carbs
  • Take 10-minute walks when you feel overwhelmed
  • Say no to at least one thing per week to create breathing room
  • Keep up with any exercise routine you have, even if it’s shorter
  • Take your vitamins, medications, whatever you normally do

You’re not being selfish. You’re being smart. If you crash, everything falls apart. You’re the load-bearing wall in this whole operation.

Protect yourself.

8. Delegate Everything You Possibly Can

You are not required to do everything yourself.

If you’re hosting, make it potluck. Assign dishes. Let other people contribute. They want to help. Let them.

If you have a partner, they can do holiday stuff too. Shopping. Wrapping. Cooking. Decorating. All of it. Decide together who’s doing what, then let them actually do it without micromanaging.

If you have kids old enough to help, put them to work. They can wrap gifts (badly, but it counts). They can help decorate. They can set the table. They can clean up. Make it a family project instead of a you project.

If someone offers to help, say yes. Don’t be a martyr about doing it all yourself and then resenting everyone. Accept the help.

Hire help if you can afford it. Someone to clean your house before (or after) guests. Someone to wrap presents. Someone to do your grocery shopping. Your time and sanity have value.

You’re allowed to share the load. In fact, you should. The holidays aren’t your solo performance. Stop acting like they are.

9. Create Some Actual Boundaries

Family dynamics get weird during the holidays. People who you successfully avoid for 11 months suddenly want to gather and make comments about your life choices.

Set boundaries before you need them.

If certain topics are off-limits (your weight, your dating life, your parenting, your career, your politics), decide in advance how you’ll handle them coming up.

Some options:

  • “I’m not discussing that today, thanks.”
  • “That’s personal, let’s talk about something else.”
  • “We’re having a drama-free day, so I’m changing the subject.”
  • Or just excuse yourself and go to another room

If certain family members always cause problems, limit your exposure. Visit for a shorter time. Stay in a hotel instead of their house. Leave early if things get toxic.

You’re allowed to protect your peace, even (especially) during the holidays. You’re not required to tolerate bad behavior just because it’s December and someone’s related to you.

If hosting stresses you out because people overstay, set end times. “We’re having people over from 2-5 PM.” When 5 PM hits, start cleaning up. People will take the hint.

Don’t let guilt stop you from taking care of yourself. Boundaries aren’t mean. They’re necessary.

10. Build in Actual Rest Time

According to research published by the National Institutes of Health, chronic stress without adequate recovery leads to burnout and health problems. The holidays are literally weeks of nonstop activity. You need breaks.

Schedule downtime like it’s an appointment. Block out time on your calendar for absolutely nothing. Protect it.

This might look like:

  • One evening a week where you do nothing holiday-related
  • An hour here and there for a bath, a book, a nap, whatever recharges you
  • A full day off where you refuse to do anything productive
  • Quiet mornings with coffee before the chaos starts

Do not feel guilty about resting. Rest is productive. It’s what prevents you from having a breakdown in the Target parking lot while crying about gift wrap.

The world will not end if you take two hours for yourself. Everything will still get done. And if it doesn’t all get done? It wasn’t that important anyway.

Your presence during the holidays matters more than your productivity. Show up as a person, not a stressed-out robot going through the motions.

Rest so you can actually enjoy the season instead of just surviving it.

The Reality Check You Need

Here’s the truth: even with all these tips, the holidays will probably still be somewhat stressful. There will still be moments that test your patience. There will still be unexpected problems.

That’s okay. The goal isn’t zero stress. That’s impossible.

The goal is manageable stress. Stress that doesn’t leave you counting down the days until it’s over. Stress that doesn’t make you dread the entire season.

You can create a version of the holidays that works for your life, your budget, and your sanity. It won’t look like Pinterest. It won’t look like the commercials. It won’t look perfect.

But it’ll be yours. And it’ll be sustainable. And you’ll actually enjoy parts of it instead of just white-knuckling your way through until January.

Start with one or two of these tips. You don’t have to implement all of them at once. Just pick the ones that address your biggest pain points and start there.

Lower your expectations. Ask for help. Say no more. Spend less. Rest more.

You deserve to enjoy the holidays, not just survive them.

So give yourself permission to do it differently this year. Permission to prioritize yourself. Permission to disappoint people if necessary. Permission to create holidays that feel good instead of holidays that look good.

The magic isn’t in doing everything perfectly. It’s in being present for the moments that matter. And you can’t be present if you’re exhausted, stressed, and resentful.

Take care of yourself this season. Future You will be so grateful you did.

Happy holidays. The manageable, imperfect, good-enough kind.

How to Take a Mental Break from Life

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Your brain is full.

Not metaphorically. Actually full. Like a browser with 47 tabs open, half of them playing videos you can’t find, all of them draining your battery faster than you can charge it.

Work deadlines. Family obligations. That thing you said three years ago that still haunts you at 2 AM. The news. Your finances. Your health. Your friend’s drama. Your own drama. The pile of laundry that’s achieved sentience. Everything, all at once, all the time.

And somewhere in the middle of all that noise, there’s you. Exhausted. Overwhelmed. Running on fumes and spite.

You need a break. Not a vacation you can’t afford. Not a weekend that’ll be over before you catch your breath. An actual mental break. A real pause button for your brain.

But here’s the problem: nobody teaches you how to do that. We’re taught how to push through, how to be productive, how to handle stress. Never how to actually stop and let your mind rest.

So you keep going. Until you can’t. Until you’re so burned out that scrolling your phone feels like too much effort. Until the thought of one more conversation makes you want to fake your own death and move to a cabin in Montana.

Sound familiar?

Yeah. Me too.

Let me show you how to actually take a mental break before you reach that point. Not theory. Not wellness influencer nonsense. Real, practical ways to give your brain the rest it’s literally screaming for.

What a Mental Break Actually Is (And Isn’t)

First, let’s clear something up.

A mental break isn’t quitting your job or abandoning your responsibilities or running away from your life. Though I get why that sounds appealing when you’re drowning.

It’s giving your brain permission to stop processing for a while. To stop solving problems, making decisions, worrying about outcomes. To just… be.

Think of your brain like a phone. It needs to be charged. But if you keep using it while it’s plugged in, constantly checking notifications and running apps, it never actually charges properly. It just maintains whatever pathetic battery percentage it’s at.

A mental break is putting your brain in airplane mode for a bit. Letting it actually recharge instead of just maintaining.

Research shows that chronic stress without adequate recovery time leads to burnout, anxiety, depression, and a whole host of physical health problems. Your brain needs breaks the same way your body needs sleep. It’s not optional. It’s maintenance.

But here’s what a mental break doesn’t look like: numbing out with substances, dissociating in front of Netflix for six hours, or doom-scrolling until your eyes hurt. That’s not rest. That’s just different ways of being exhausted.

Real mental breaks involve actively disengaging from the things that drain you and actively engaging with things that restore you.

The difference matters.

The Five-Minute Mental Break (When That’s All You’ve Got)

Let’s start small. Because sometimes five minutes is genuinely all you have.

Maybe you’re at work. Maybe you’re between kid crises. Maybe you’re just so fried that five minutes is all you can manage.

Here’s what you do.

Step away from everything

Physically remove yourself if possible. Go to the bathroom. Step outside. Sit in your car. Close your office door. Find any space where you’re alone and won’t be interrupted.

If you absolutely can’t leave, at least turn away from your computer and close your eyes.

Breathe like you mean it

Not those cute little breaths you’ve been taking all day. Real breaths. Deep ones.

In through your nose for four counts. Hold for four. Out through your mouth for six. Repeat five times.

This isn’t woo-woo. Research demonstrates that controlled breathing activates your parasympathetic nervous system, which literally tells your body “we’re safe, you can calm down now.”

Do a body scan

Starting at your head, mentally check in with each part of your body. Notice where you’re holding tension. Your jaw. Your shoulders. Your hands.

Don’t try to fix it. Just notice it. Awareness alone often releases some of the tension.

Reset your environment

Before you go back to whatever you were doing, drink some water. Stretch your neck. Look at something far away to rest your eyes. Play a song you like.

Give yourself a tiny sensory reset so you’re not walking back into the chaos with the exact same depleted state you left with.

Five minutes. That’s it. But done consistently, these micro-breaks add up. They’re like tiny deposits in your mental health bank account.

They won’t solve everything. But they’ll keep you from completely crashing until you can get a longer break.

The Half-Day Reset (When You Need More)

Okay, so five-minute breaks help. But sometimes you need a few hours to actually recover.

A half-day might sound impossible. But hear me out. You’re going to spend half a day doing something this week anyway. Scrolling. Watching TV you’re not even enjoying. Half-present at obligations you resent.

What if you spent that same amount of time actually resting instead?

Pick a half-day

Saturday morning. Wednesday afternoon. Doesn’t matter when. Just block out four hours where you have no obligations.

If you have kids, trade with your partner or a friend. If you’re working, take a half personal day. If you have to, tell a tiny lie about a doctor’s appointment.

This is healthcare. You’re treating a condition (burnout) before it becomes a crisis.

No agenda

This is crucial. The half-day isn’t for catching up on chores or running errands or being productive. It’s for rest.

No cleaning. No grocery shopping. No answering emails. None of it.

If your brain freaks out about “wasting time,” remind it that running yourself into the ground is the actual waste.

Do something that fills you instead of drains you

This is personal. For some people, it’s being completely alone. For others, it’s being with specific people who don’t require performance.

Maybe it’s:

  • Reading a book in a park
  • Taking a long walk with no destination
  • Sitting in a coffee shop watching people
  • Working on a hobby you’ve neglected
  • Taking a nap without guilt
  • Going to a museum or art gallery alone
  • Sitting by water (ocean, lake, river, whatever’s near you)

The rule is simple: if you spend the time thinking about all the things you “should” be doing, you’re not actually resting. You’re just feeling guilty in a different location.

Let that go. Those things will still be there in four hours.

Unplug completely

Phone off. Or at least on do-not-disturb with only emergency contacts able to reach you.

No social media. No news. No work Slack. None of it.

The world will not end. I promise. And if it does, someone will find a way to tell you.

The Weekend Unplug (For Deeper Recovery)

Sometimes you need a full weekend to actually feel human again.

Not a weekend where you’re running around doing family activities and social obligations and catching up on chores. A weekend specifically designed to let your brain decompress.

Friday night: Prep and wind down

Don’t start your mental break weekend exhausted from Friday. If possible, leave work a bit early. Or at least leave on time instead of staying late.

Use Friday evening to transition. Take a shower. Change into comfortable clothes. Make or order food you actually enjoy.

Do not check your work email “just in case.” Do not doom-scroll the news. Do not start a project.

Tell the important people in your life that you’re taking a mental health weekend and you’ll be less available than usual. Set expectations now so you don’t feel guilty later.

Saturday: No obligations

Wake up when your body wants to wake up. Not an alarm. Not because you “should” get up. When you’re done sleeping.

Eat when you’re hungry. Move if you feel like it. Stay in pajamas all day if that sounds good.

The only rule is: no shoulds. If you think “I should do laundry,” that’s a sign you’re about to break your own mental break. Don’t.

Spend the day doing things that feel restorative. Long bath. Reading. Gentle walk. Whatever your version of rest looks like.

Some people need to be outside in nature. Some people need to be completely alone. Some people need to create something with their hands. Do your version, not someone else’s. If you’re someone who benefits from structured morning time to set a positive tone before relaxing, Jay Shetty’s morning routine offers a gentle approach to starting your day with intention.

Sunday: Gentle reentry

Sunday isn’t about cramming in all the things you didn’t do Saturday. It’s about slowly transitioning back without shocking your system.

Maybe you do some light life maintenance in the morning. Then afternoon is still yours. Maybe you meal prep a bit so Monday’s easier. But at a gentle pace, not a frantic one.

Evening is for winding down. Not for trying to get ahead on work. Not for stressing about the week ahead.

You’re not trying to arrive at Monday perfectly productive. You’re trying to arrive at Monday as a person instead of an exhausted robot.

The Nature Prescription (The Reset Your Ancestors Would Recognize)

Here’s something that works that nobody talks about enough: just go outside.

Not for exercise. Not for productivity. Just to be outside in nature.

Your brain evolved spending most of its time outdoors. Moving through natural landscapes. Following the sun. Responding to seasons. Your nervous system is literally wired for this.

Then we invented modern life. Now you’re inside 90% of the time, under artificial light, breathing recycled air, surrounded by right angles and synthetic materials.

No wonder you feel terrible.

Start with 20 minutes

Research from the University of Michigan shows that just 20 minutes in nature significantly lowers cortisol (your stress hormone). Twenty minutes. That’s less time than you spend scrolling Instagram before bed.

Find some green space. A park. A trail. A quiet neighborhood with trees. Somewhere that feels removed from the concrete and chaos.

No agenda, no phone

This isn’t a workout. You’re not tracking steps or trying to hit a certain heart rate. You’re not taking photos for social media or catching up on podcasts.

You’re just… there. Walking slowly. Sitting on a bench. Watching birds or clouds or leaves moving in wind.

Let your mind wander. Let your body relax. Let the natural environment do its thing.

Make it a regular practice

One nature walk won’t fix everything. But nature walks three times a week? That starts to shift things.

You’ll notice you sleep better. Your baseline anxiety drops. That constant buzzing in your head gets quieter.

If you’re dealing with serious stress or mild depression, time in nature can be as effective as some medications. Not instead of treatment if you need it. But as part of your recovery toolkit.

The Digital Detox (Harder Than It Sounds, Worth It)

Let’s talk about the thing making your mental health worse that you’re probably doing right now.

Your phone. Your computer. The constant, endless stream of information, opinions, outrage, comparison, and overstimulation.

Social media isn’t relaxing. News apps aren’t informing you in useful ways anymore. Work emails after hours aren’t making you better at your job.

They’re just keeping you in a constant state of low-grade anxiety and overstimulation.

Try 24 hours completely offline

Pick a day. Turn off your phone. Actually off, not just on do-not-disturb.

Tell people in advance if you need to. Give someone a way to reach you in a real emergency (like call your partner’s phone or your landline if you still have one).

Then be offline. No internet. No apps. No checking “just for a second.”

What to do instead

Read physical books. Cook elaborate meals. Go for long walks. Work on a puzzle. Play board games. Have actual conversations. Stare at the ceiling and think.

It will feel weird at first. Probably boring. Maybe even anxiety-inducing because you’re so used to constant stimulation.

Sit with that feeling. It passes. And what’s on the other side is actually kind of amazing.

Notice what changes

After 24 hours offline, pay attention. How do you feel? How’s your anxiety level? Your mental clarity? Your ability to focus on one thing?

Most people report feeling lighter. Less scattered. More present. Like there’s more space in their brain.

That feeling is what you’re missing the rest of the time. That’s what your baseline could be if you weren’t drowning in digital noise.

Scale it into your life

You don’t have to go offline completely forever. But you could:

  • Have tech-free evenings after 8 PM
  • Keep weekends phone-minimal
  • Delete social media apps (you can still access on desktop if needed)
  • Turn off all non-essential notifications
  • Have a “dumb phone” day once a week

The goal isn’t to become a luddite. It’s to create space where your brain isn’t constantly processing, comparing, and reacting.

The Permission You’re Waiting For

Here’s what I wish someone had told me years ago when I was running on empty and feeling guilty about it:

You’re allowed to stop.

You’re allowed to take a break before you’ve “earned” it by completely falling apart. You’re allowed to rest without producing anything. You’re allowed to prioritize your mental health over other people’s expectations.

You don’t need to wait until you’re hospitalized, fired, or completely non-functional. You don’t need to hit rock bottom before you get help or take time for yourself.

Maintenance is cheaper than repair. In cars, in houses, in humans.

Those mental breaks we talked about? They’re not luxuries for people who have their lives together. They’re necessities for staying human in a world that’s trying to grind you down.

Common guilt trips (and why they’re lies):

“I don’t have time.” You have time. You’re choosing to spend it on other things. That’s not judgment, it’s just fact. You can choose differently.

“Other people need me.” Other people will survive. And they’ll benefit from you being less exhausted and resentful. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is apply Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory and let people handle their own problems while you take care of yourself.

“I should be able to handle this.” Should according to whom? The same culture that’s burning everyone out? Great standard.

“Taking breaks is lazy.” No. Working yourself into the ground and becoming useless is what’s actually wasteful.

“I’ll rest when I’m done.” You’re never done. There’s always more. That’s why you have to rest anyway.

Start Where You Are

You don’t need to implement everything in this article. You don’t need to take a week-long retreat or quit your job or move to the woods.

Start with five minutes today. One half-day this week. One weekend this month.

Build your mental break practice the same way you’d build any other skill. Small, consistent, imperfect.

Some days you’ll manage it. Some days you won’t. Both are fine. You’re not trying to be perfect. You’re trying to be sustainable.

Your brain is not a machine that can run indefinitely without maintenance. It’s an organ that needs rest. Give it that rest before it forces the issue by breaking down completely.

You deserve a mental break. Not because you’ve earned it or because you’re in crisis. Just because you’re human and humans need rest.

So take it. However small. However imperfect. Just take it.

Your future self will thank you. And if you need an extra boost of encouragement to actually follow through, try Mel Robbins’ High 5 Habit to build the self-compassion that makes taking breaks feel less guilty.

Brenรฉ Brown’s Values List: Why You Should Only Pick 2 Core Values

I’ll be honest: when I first heard Brenรฉ Brown say you should only have two core values, I thought she’d lost it.

Two? Just two? I’m a good person. I value lots of things. Family, honesty, creativity, health, freedom, loyalty, justice, humor… the list went on. How was I supposed to pick just two without essentially declaring that everything else didn’t matter?

But here’s the thing. Brown wasn’t asking me to care less about those other values. She was asking me to stop lying to myself about what actually drives my decisions when things get hard.

And that? That’s a completely different question.

The Problem with Valuing Everything

Brown’s done something most researchers never do: she’s interviewed thousands of people about courage, shame, and leadership. Like, actually sat down with CEOs, teachers, parents, military officers, artists, and asked them uncomfortable questions about what matters when you’re making the hardest calls of your life.

What she found is that the most grounded, courageous people (the ones who sleep well at night) can name their top two values without hesitation. They know what they’re about. And when they have to choose between two good things (or two bad things), they’ve got a filter.

Everyone else? We’re out here spinning our wheels, trying to honor seventeen different values simultaneously, and wondering why every decision feels impossible.

“If everything is important, then nothing is truly a driver,” Brown says. Which sounds harsh until you realize she’s right.

Think about the last time you faced a genuinely tough choice. Not “should I get tacos or pizza” tough, but the kind where either option meant disappointing someone or compromising something you cared about. What did you actually use to make that call? Because I’m guessing it wasn’t your carefully curated list of twelve values.

It was probably two, maybe three things that felt absolutely non-negotiable.

What This Exercise Actually Is

So Brown created this values exercise that’s become kind of legendary in leadership circles. She’s taken more than ten thousand people through it at this point. It’s part of her Dare to Lead work, and it’s deceptively simple.

You start with a list of about a hundred values (everything from Accountability to Whimsy). You circle the ones that resonate. Then comes the hard part: you narrow it down to two.

Not ten. Not five. Two.

And then (this is where it gets real) you define what those values actually look like in your behavior. Not the pretty, aspirational version. The honest version, including all the ways you betray those values when you’re scared or tired or overwhelmed.

Brown calls these “slippery behaviors.” The warning signs that you’re acting outside your integrity.

I’m going to walk you through the whole thing, but first, let me tell you why this isn’t just another self-help exercise you do once and forget about.

Why Only Two? (And Why That’s Harder Than It Sounds)

When Brown first tried this exercise herself, she fought it. She wanted to keep “family” in her top values. Of course she values family! She’s a mother, a partner, a daughter. How could she possibly drop that from her core values?

But when she really got honest about her decision-making, she realized her two core values were actually faith and courage. And here’s the twist: those two values were the reason she could show up for her family the way she wanted to.

Her faith told her how to see people, including her kids. Her courage helped her have the hard conversations, set the boundaries, be vulnerable. Family wasn’t gone. It was supported by her core values.

This is the pattern Brown kept seeing. Your core two values are like the trunk of a tree. All those other values you circled? They’re branches. They only flourish if the trunk is strong.

But getting there requires some pretty uncomfortable honesty about what you actually prioritize when push comes to shove.

The Complete Values List

Alright, here’s the list. Don’t overthink this part. Just read through and notice which words make something in your chest go “yes, that.”

You’ll probably circle ten to fifteen. That’s normal. We’re going to narrow it down after.

  • Accountability
  • Achievement
  • Adventure
  • Authenticity
  • Authority
  • Autonomy
  • Balance
  • Beauty
  • Belonging
  • Career
  • Caring
  • Collaboration
  • Commitment
  • Community
  • Compassion
  • Competency
  • Contribution
  • Courage
  • Creativity
  • Curiosity
  • Dignity
  • Efficiency
  • Equality
  • Ethics
  • Excellence
  • Fairness
  • Faith
  • Family
  • Financial Stability
  • Forgiveness
  • Freedom
  • Friendship
  • Fun
  • Generosity
  • God
  • Grace
  • Gratitude
  • Growth
  • Happiness
  • Health
  • Home
  • Honesty
  • Hope
  • Humility
  • Humor
  • Independence
  • Initiative
  • Integrity
  • Intuition
  • Job Security
  • Joy
  • Justice
  • Kindness
  • Knowledge
  • Leadership
  • Learning
  • Legacy
  • Leisure
  • Love
  • Loyalty
  • Making a Difference
  • Nature
  • Openness
  • Optimism
  • Order
  • Parenting
  • Patience
  • Patriotism
  • Peace
  • Perseverance
  • Personal Fulfillment
  • Power
  • Pride
  • Privacy
  • Problem-Solving
  • Prosperity
  • Purpose
  • Quality
  • Recognition
  • Reliability
  • Reputation
  • Respect
  • Responsibility
  • Risk-Taking
  • Safety
  • Security
  • Self-Discipline
  • Self-Expression
  • Self-Respect
  • Service
  • Simplicity
  • Sportsmanship
  • Spirituality
  • Stability
  • Status
  • Stewardship
  • Success
  • Teamwork
  • Thrift
  • Time
  • Tradition
  • Travel
  • Trust
  • Truth
  • Understanding
  • Uniqueness
  • Usefulness
  • Vision
  • Vulnerability
  • Wealth
  • Whimsy
  • Wisdom
  • Work

Brown leaves some blank spaces too, in case your value isn’t on the list. Don’t be precious about the exact wording. What matters is what the word means to you.

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How to Actually Do This Thing

Step 1: The Easy Part (Circle Everything That Resonates)

Go through that list again. This time, circle or write down every value that feels important to you. The ones that, if someone asked “do you value this?” you’d say yes without hesitation.

Don’t edit yourself yet. This isn’t the time for strategy.

You’re probably going to end up with somewhere between eight and twenty circled values. Maybe more if you’re having an existential crisis, which… fair.

Take about ten minutes with this. Trust your gut. If you’re debating whether something counts, it probably doesn’t. The real ones will feel obvious.

Step 2: The Part That Makes You Squirm (Narrow to Two)

Okay. Now comes the uncomfortable bit.

You need to get from your ten-ish values down to two. Not “my top tier of five,” not “my primary cluster.” Two words that you could tattoo on your forearm and use as a decision-making filter for the next decade.

Here’s how Brown suggests you do this. For each value you circled, ask yourself:

Does this define me when I’m at my absolute best?

Is this who I am when I’m acting with integrity?

Do I actually use this as a filter when making hard decisions?

Would I feel like I’d betrayed myself if I acted against this?

That last question is the killer. Because lots of things are nice. Lots of things are admirable. But how many things would make you feel sick to your stomach if you compromised them?

Start cutting.

This is where people get stuck. So let me tell you what Brown says: you’re going to want to pick values you think you should have. Values that sound good. Values your parents would approve of or that make you look like a good person.

Resist that. Hard.

Pick the values you’ve actually demonstrated through your behavior over the past year. The things you’ve consistently chosen, even when it cost you something. Even when it would’ve been easier to choose differently.

One guy in Brown’s research kept trying to include “family” in his core values because he loved his family. But when he looked at his actual decision-making patterns, he realized he consistently prioritized “achievement” and “recognition” over family time. That was brutal to admit. But admitting it meant he could actually start making different choices, because now he knew what he was fighting against.

If you’re stuck between three values, look for overlap. Do two of them point to the same thing? Honesty and truth might both live under “integrity.” Generosity and service might both be expressions of “contribution.”

Sometimes you’ll realize one value is actually the tool you use to live another value. Like, you might value creativity not for its own sake, but because it’s how you express your core value of freedom or authenticity.

Keep digging. Get uncomfortable. You’re looking for the two things that feel most like you.

Step 3: Make It Real (Define Your Behaviors)

Alright, you’ve got your two values. Maybe you went with Integrity and Growth. Or Courage and Faith. Or Freedom and Connection.

Now here’s where most people stop, and where the actual power of this exercise begins.

You need to define what these values look like in action. Not the Instagram version. The real, messy, Tuesday-morning version.

For each of your two core values, write out:

Three to four supporting behaviors. These are the specific things you do when you’re living this value. Not vague aspirations. Actual behaviors someone could observe.

Let’s say one of your core values is Courage. A supporting behavior might be: “I speak up in meetings when I disagree with the plan, even if I’m the only dissenting voice.” Or: “I have uncomfortable conversations within 48 hours instead of letting resentment build.”

See the difference between that and “I’m brave” or “I face my fears”? One is concrete. The other is a fortune cookie.

Three to four slippery behaviors. This is Brown’s term for the warning signs that you’re abandoning your value. The things you do when you’re scared, exhausted, or protecting yourself.

For that same Courage value, a slippery behavior might be: “I stay silent in meetings to avoid conflict, then complain to my partner later.” Or: “I send a passive-aggressive email instead of picking up the phone.”

These are going to sting a little to write down. Good. That means you’re being honest.

One real example. Think of a specific time when you fully lived this value. Not a hypothetical. An actual memory. What happened? What did you do? How did it feel?

This grounds the whole thing. Values without examples are just words on a page.

Let me show you what this looked like for Brown herself.

One of her core values is Courage. A supporting behavior she wrote down was: “Choosing what’s right over what’s fun, fast, or easy.” A slippery behavior: “Choosing silence over what is right.”

Her other core value is Faith. A supporting behavior: “Finding the face of God in everyone, even people I disagree with or who’ve hurt me.” A slippery behavior: “Dehumanizing people when they’ve hurt me, hating the person instead of the behavior.”

You see how specific that is? And how human? She’s not claiming she always gets it right. She’s acknowledging exactly where she tends to fail.

That’s the whole point.

Step 4: Tell Someone (This Is Non-Negotiable)

Here’s the thing about values work: it doesn’t mean anything if it stays in your journal.

Brown’s research found that the people who actually change their behavior after doing this exercise are the ones who share their values with someone they trust. A partner, a friend, a colleague, a coach. Someone who can call you out when they see you sliding into your slippery behaviors.

This doesn’t have to be a big dramatic moment. Just: “Hey, I did this values exercise. My two core values are X and Y. Here’s what they mean to me. Would you be willing to point it out if you see me acting out of alignment with these?”

Most people will say yes. And most people are weirdly good at spotting when you’re betraying yourself, because it’s obvious from the outside even when you can’t see it.

If you’re in a leadership role or on a team, Brown suggests doing this exercise together. Everyone shares their two values and their behaviors. You start to see why people make the choices they do. Why one person always pushes for more time (maybe they value Quality) while another pushes to ship fast (maybe they value Action or Efficiency).

It doesn’t mean anyone’s wrong. It just means you understand each other better.

Tracking your values and behaviors consistently can be challenging, which is why many people find structured reflection helpful. Tools like the Intelligent Change Five Minute Journal can make this daily practice more manageable.

The Mistakes Everyone Makes

I’ve watched enough people do this exercise now (including myself, multiple times) that I can spot the patterns. Here are the ways people consistently screw this up.

Mistake 1: Picking aspirational values instead of actual values

This is the big one. You pick “balance” because you want to have better work-life balance. But if you look at your calendar from the last three months, you’ve consistently chosen work over rest. That means “achievement” or “success” is probably more honest.

The goal here isn’t to pick values you wish you had. It’s to name the values you’re already living by, even if they make you uncomfortable.

You can’t change what you won’t acknowledge.

Mistake 2: Keeping it vague

“I value courage.” Okay, cool. What does that mean for you, specifically, on a random Wednesday?

If you can’t name the behaviors, the value is useless. It’s just a nice word you like.

This is why Step 3 matters so much. The behavior definition is where the rubber meets the road.

Mistake 3: Trying to honor ten values simultaneously

Look, I get it. You’re a complex person. You contain multitudes. But decision-making doesn’t work that way.

When you’re standing at a crossroads trying to figure out which path to take, you can’t consult a committee of ten values. You need a quick, clear filter.

Brown found that only about 10% of people can actually live by more than three values consistently. The rest of us are fooling ourselves.

Two is hard enough.

Mistake 4: Confusing values with goals

“Success” isn’t really a value. It’s an outcome. Same with “wealth” or “achievement” in the narrow sense.

The real question is: why do you want success? Is it because you value recognition? Security? Freedom? Impact?

Dig a layer deeper. The value is the why, not the what.

Mistake 5: Picking what sounds good instead of what’s true

This is subtle, but it matters. Maybe you keep trying to include “health” in your core values because you know you should care about health. But when you look at your choices (what you eat, how you move, how much you sleep) you’re clearly prioritizing other things.

That’s information. Don’t fight it. Use it.

You can’t shame yourself into different values. You can only get honest about what you actually care about, and then decide if you want to change.

What Happens When You Get This Right

There’s this moment that happens when you really nail your two core values. Everything gets… quieter.

Not easier, exactly. But simpler.

Because suddenly you’ve got this filter for every decision. Should I take this job? Does it align with my values of Freedom and Learning? Should I say yes to this commitment? Does it honor my values of Family and Service?

Sometimes the answer is no, and that’s okay. You’re not saying the thing is bad. You’re just saying it’s not for you, not right now, not given who you are and what you’re about.

Brown talks about how this reduces decision fatigue. And it does. But it also does something deeper: it gives you a sense of integrity. Like your insides match your outsides. Like you’re not constantly betraying yourself in small ways that add up to a quiet, persistent shame.

Research backs this up, by the way. There’s a whole body of work on values affirmation showing that when people spend even just ten minutes reflecting on their core values, they show lower stress responses, better performance under pressure, and more resilience in the face of challenges.

One study at Stanford found that students who wrote about their core values before a stressful test had significantly lower cortisol spikes and performed better than students who didn’t. Not because the values magically made them smarter, but because they could access what they already knew without the fog of anxiety.

When you’re connected to what matters, the small stuff stops feeling so overwhelming.

How This Connects to Other Frameworks (For the Nerds)

If you’re into psychology or personal development, you might be wondering how Brown’s approach relates to other values frameworks out there.

The VIA Character Strengths assessment, for instance, identifies your top strengths out of a list of 24. That’s different from Brown’s exercise. VIA is looking at your natural inclinations, your trait-like qualities. Brown’s asking what you prioritize when you have to make hard calls.

They overlap, though. If your top VIA strength is Honesty, there’s a good chance Integrity or Truth is one of your core values. If you’re high in Curiosity, maybe Learning or Growth shows up.

Then there’s Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), which uses values clarification as a core component of treatment. ACT therapists help clients define their values across different life domains and then commit to actions that align with those values, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Brown’s approach is basically a concentrated version of that. Same idea (values as a compass, behavior as the proof) but stripped down to the essentials. Two values. Specific behaviors. Ongoing practice.

The power in Brown’s version is the forced choice. ACT might have you articulate values in work, relationships, health, spirituality, and so on. Brown says no: find the two that cut across everything. The ones that show up no matter what domain you’re in.

It’s harder. It’s also clearer.

If you want to explore Brown’s full framework in depth, her book Dare to Lead walks through not just the values exercise, but how it connects to courageous leadership, vulnerability, and building trust in teams.

The Questions People Always Ask

Can my values change over time?

Yep. Brown recommends revisiting this annually. Sometimes a major life event shifts what matters to you (having kids, losing someone, a health scare, a career transition). Your values might evolve.

But if you’re changing them every few months, you’re probably not being honest about what they actually are. Core values should feel pretty stable for at least a year or two.

What if my partner has different values?

This is actually useful information. If you value Adventure and your partner values Security, that explains some friction, right?

The goal isn’t to have identical values. It’s to understand each other’s decision-making filter. When your partner says no to something, you can ask: “Is this a Security thing?” And they can say yes, and you can negotiate from there instead of just feeling rejected.

What if my workplace has stated values that conflict with mine?

Brown would say that’s a red flag. If you’re spending forty-plus hours a week in an environment that asks you to betray your core values, you’re going to burn out. Or worse, you’re going to start compromising who you are.

Sometimes you can carve out a role that lets you honor your values within a flawed system. Sometimes you can’t. But at least you’ll know why you’re miserable.

Do I have to pick from this specific list?

Nope. The list is just a starting point. If your value isn’t there, add it. What matters is that you can name it and define what it looks like in behavior.

Brown’s seen people choose values like “Wilderness” or “Solitude” or “Play” that aren’t on the standard list. If it’s real for you, it counts.

What if I’m stuck between three values?

Keep pushing. Ask yourself: if I could only keep one of these three in a crisis, which would it be? Which one would I feel like I’d lost myself without?

Sometimes you realize that one of the three is actually a supporting value. It’s how you express one of the other two. Freedom might be how you live out your core value of Authenticity, for example.

The constraint is the point. It forces clarity.

Where to Go from Here

Look, you could read this whole article, nod appreciatively, and go about your day unchanged. Most people will.

Or you could actually do the thing.

It’ll take you maybe an hour. Probably less. But that hour might give you more clarity on who you are and what you’re doing with your life than the last ten books you’ve read combined.

Here’s what I’d suggest: grab a notebook or open a doc. Go through the values list above and circle the ones that feel true. Don’t overthink it.

Then sit with those for a bit. Narrow them down. Get to two.

Then write out the behaviors. The supporting ones and the slippery ones. Be brutally honest about where you tend to fail.

And then (this is the scary part) tell someone.

Because values work isn’t about achieving some perfect state of integrity. It’s about knowing yourself well enough to recognize when you’re drifting, and having people around you who can help you course-correct.

Brown says the most courageous people she’s studied aren’t the ones who never screw up. They’re the ones who know what they stand for and keep coming back to it, even after they’ve stumbled.

That’s all this is. A way to know what you stand for. A way to come back.

You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to get honest.

And then, once you know (once you can name the two things that matter most) you get to spend the rest of your life learning how to live them out. Which is harder than it sounds and more rewarding than you’d think.

So what are your two values?

Not the ones you wish they were. The ones they actually are.

Start there.


Further Reading

If this exercise resonated with you and you want to go deeper into Brown’s work on values, vulnerability, and courageous leadership, here are some resources:

This exercise comes from Brenรฉ Brown’s book Dare to Lead and her research on courage and leadership. The values list and methodology are available on her website at brenebrown.com. If you want to go deeper, the book’s worth reading, particularly the sections on vulnerability and trust, which are really just extensions of this same values work.

Master Jay Shetty’s Morning Routine: 4 Steps to Transform Your Day

I’ll be honest with you. When I first heard about Jay Shetty’s morning routine, I rolled my eyes so hard I nearly saw my own brain. Another guru telling me to wake up at 5 AM? Another person insisting that gratitude journals would fix my life?

But here’s the thing. Shetty isn’t just some wellness influencer who stumbled into success. He spent three years as a Vedic monk, living in ashrams across India and London, studying ancient wisdom before bringing it back to regular people like us. And when millions of people swear by someone’s method, well, maybe there’s something worth examining.

His approach is called the T.I.M.E. method. It stands for Thankfulness, Insight, Meditation, and Exercise. Each morning, Shetty dedicates about an hour to these four practices, and he claims this single hour shapes his entire day. The neuroscience backs him up on this, which surprised me more than anything.

Let me walk you through what he actually does, why it works according to research, and how you can steal the parts that’ll work for your life.

The T.I.M.E. Method at a Glance:

  • T = Thankfulness (5-10 min): Gratitude practice before getting out of bed
  • I = Insight (7-10 min): Reading, listening, or learning something meaningful
  • M = Meditation (15 min): Breathwork + visualization + intention-setting
  • E = Exercise (20-30 min): Any movement that gets your heart pumping

Total time: 60 minutes (or start with 20 minutes doing 5 min of each)

What Makes Shetty’s Approach Different

Most morning routines feel like punishment. You’re supposed to journal for twenty minutes, meditate until your legs go numb, do a CrossFit workout, read a chapter of some dense book, and somehow make it to work on time. It’s exhausting just thinking about it.

Shetty’s method is different because each component serves a specific neurological purpose. He’s not just throwing random wellness activities at the wall. The order matters. The combination matters. And honestly? You can start with just five minutes of each part and still see results.

The T.I.M.E. framework emerged from his years studying with monks, but he’s translated it for those of us who didn’t give up our careers to live in silent contemplation. According to his book Think Like a Monk (which I highly recommend) and countless podcast interviews, this routine helped him transition from monastic life back to the chaos of modern work without losing his center.

T is for Thankfulness (And It’s Not What You Think)

Here’s where Shetty starts every single morning, before his feet even hit the floor.

Gratitude practice. I know, I know. You’ve heard this a thousand times. But stick with me because the way he does it actually rewires your brain chemistry in measurable ways.

The moment he wakes up, still in bed, Shetty thinks of three specific things he’s grateful for. Not generic stuff like “I’m grateful for my family.” More like “I’m grateful that my daughter laughed at my terrible joke yesterday” or “I’m grateful that the coffee shop guy remembered my order.” Specific, recent, detailed.

Why does this work? Your brain has what neuroscientists call a negativity bias. We evolved to scan for threats, so we naturally focus on what’s wrong, what’s missing, what might hurt us. Starting your day with gratitude literally activates different neural pathways.

Research from UCLA’s Mindfulness Awareness Research Center shows that gratitude practices light up two key brain regions:

  • Ventral striatum: Your reward processing center
  • Medial prefrontal cortex: Associated with social bonding and decision-making

When you practice gratitude, you’re essentially giving your brain a hit of dopamine and serotonin before you’ve even made coffee.

What the research shows:

But here’s what Shetty emphasizes that most people miss: you can’t just go through the motions. You need to actually feel the gratitude, let it wash over you for a few seconds. That emotional component is what triggers the neurochemical response.

Some mornings he writes in a gratitude journal. Other mornings he texts someone a thank you message. The format doesn’t matter as much as the genuine feeling behind it. I personally use this gratitude journal that I found on Amazonโ€”it’s super affordable and has really helped me stay consistent with the practice.

If you’re thinking “I don’t have time for this,” consider that it takes maybe two minutes. Less time than scrolling Instagram in bed, which is probably making you feel worse anyway.

How to start (Thankfulness edition):

  • Beginner: Think of 3 specific things while still in bed (2 minutes)
  • Intermediate: Write 3-5 things in a gratitude journal each morning
  • Advanced: Text or call someone to thank them directly

Common mistakes to avoid:

  • Being too generic (“I’m grateful for my family” vs. “I’m grateful my son shared his lunch with a new kid at school”)
  • Rushing through without feeling the emotion
  • Doing it while scrolling your phone

I is for Insight (Feed Your Brain Something Worth Chewing On)

After gratitude, Shetty spends about seven to ten minutes engaging with something that expands his mind.

This isn’t about forcing yourself to read Dostoyevsky at 6 AM. It’s about consciously choosing what goes into your head first thing in the morning, before the world starts throwing information at you.

Shetty might read a few pages of a book. Listen to part of a podcast. Read a thoughtful article. Watch a short educational video. The key is that it’s something that makes him think, something that offers a new perspective or deepens his understanding of something important.

He’s big on not checking his phone for notifications or emails during this time. The moment you open Instagram or read work emails, you’ve handed control of your mental state to external forces. You’re reacting instead of intentionally creating your mindset.

There’s solid science behind starting your day in “input mode” rather than “output mode.” Your brain is freshest in the morning, especially right after sleep when you’ve cleared out cellular waste through the glymphatic system (basically, your brain’s overnight cleaning service). This is when you have the most cognitive capacity for learning and retention.

Research from the University of Michigan found that people who engaged in morning learning activities showed better attention and cognitive flexibility throughout the day compared to those who dove straight into reactive tasks. Another study in Nature Neuroscience demonstrated that learning new information early in the day led to better long-term memory consolidation.

Shetty often gravitates toward spiritual texts, philosophy, or personal development content. But the “Insight” component is personal to your goals. If you’re learning Spanish, this could be your Duolingo time. If you’re interested in cooking, maybe you read a cookbook or watch a chef demonstrate a technique. If you’re trying to understand investing, you could read financial analysis.

The point is active engagement with ideas, not passive scrolling. If you’re looking to protect your eyes during morning reading sessions, I use these blue light blocking glasses from Amazonโ€”they’re super affordable and have made a huge difference in reducing eye strain.

Warren Buffett famously spends his mornings reading newspapers and reports for hours. Oprah Winfrey reads spiritual texts with her breakfast. They’re both doing versions of Shetty’s “Insight” step, feeding their brains quality input before the day demands output. Similarly, Jeff Bezos prioritizes morning reading time as part of his routine before making any major decisions.

How to start (Insight edition):

  • Beginner: Listen to a 5-minute educational podcast while making coffee
  • Intermediate: Read 5-10 pages of a book that challenges you
  • Advanced: Combine reading with note-taking or journaling insights

Good sources for morning insight:

  • Books on philosophy, psychology, or your professional field
  • Educational podcasts (TED Talks, On Purpose with Jay Shetty)
  • Long-form articles from quality publications
  • Online courses or instructional videos

Avoid:

  • Social media scrolling
  • News that triggers anxiety without offering solutions
  • Work emails (save these for after your routine)

M is for Meditation (Where the Real Magic Happens)

This is the centerpiece of Shetty’s routine, and honestly, the part that intimidated me most at first.

He spends about fifteen minutes in meditation each morning, often incorporating breathwork. For someone coming from a monk background, this probably feels like barely any time. For the rest of us? Fifteen minutes of sitting still feels like an eternity.

But here’s what changed my perspective: Shetty breaks it down into chunks. He usually does about seven minutes of breathwork, followed by a few minutes of gratitude meditation (deepening the thankfulness from step one), and then visualization or intention-setting for the day.

His go-to breathwork pattern is simple: breathe in for four counts, breathe out for four counts. Sometimes he extends the exhale to six or eight counts. That’s it. Nothing fancy, no complicated pranayama techniques required.

Why this matters (the science part):

Slow, rhythmic breathing activates your vagus nerve, which is like a biological off-switch for your stress response. When you breathe slowly and deeply, you stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system (your body’s “rest and digest” mode).

What happens in your brain:

The Harvard study by Dr. Sara Lazar is particularly wild. They used brain imaging on people who completed an eight-week meditation program and found actual structural changes. The amygdala became less dense while the prefrontal cortex showed increased connectivity.

In plain English? Meditation physically changes your brain to make you less reactive and more thoughtful.

During the visualization portion, Shetty thinks about how he wants to show up that day. Not what he wants to accomplish, but who he wants to be. Maybe it’s “I want to approach every conversation with curiosity” or “I want to stay calm even when things get chaotic.”

This isn’t woo-woo nonsense. Sports psychologists have used visualization techniques with Olympic athletes for decades. When you mentally rehearse something, your brain activates similar neural pathways as if you were actually doing it. You’re essentially pre-loading the behavioral pattern you want to follow.

If fifteen minutes feels impossible, start with three. Seriously. Shetty constantly emphasizes that consistency beats duration. Three minutes every single day will change your brain more than thirty minutes once a week. This aligns with what Dr. Andrew Huberman recommends in his morning routineโ€”short, consistent practices over sporadic intense sessions.

How to start (Meditation edition):

  • Beginner: 3-5 minutes of simple breathing (4 counts in, 4 counts out)
  • Intermediate: 7 minutes breathwork + 3 minutes gratitude reflection
  • Advanced: 7 minutes breathwork + 3 minutes gratitude + 5 minutes visualization

Shetty’s breathwork pattern:

  1. Sit comfortably (chair or floor, doesn’t matter)
  2. Close your eyes or soften your gaze
  3. Breathe in through your nose for 4 counts
  4. Breathe out through your nose for 4-6 counts
  5. Repeat for 5-10 minutes
  6. When your mind wanders (it will), gently return to the breath

What to visualize:

  • How you want to show up in challenging situations today
  • The qualities you want to embody (patience, courage, curiosity)
  • One specific intention for how you’ll interact with others

E is for Exercise (Move Your Body, Wake Your Mind)

The final component is physical movement, and this is where Shetty gets his blood pumping.

As a former monk, his days used to start with yoga. Now he typically hits the gym for a workout. But he’s clear that the specific type of exercise doesn’t matter nearly as much as the act of moving your body intentionally.

Could be a run. A bike ride. Weightlifting. A dance session in your living room. Even twenty minutes of vigorous yoga or a brisk walk counts.

Here’s why this step comes last in his sequence. By the time you’ve done gratitude, learning, and meditation, you’re mentally awake but physically still. Exercise bridges that gap, energizing your body to match your prepared mind.

From a neurochemistry perspective, morning exercise is like taking a cocktail of performance-enhancing drugs, except they’re all naturally produced by your body.

What your brain releases during exercise:

  • Endorphins: Natural pain relievers that create euphoria
  • Dopamine: Motivation and reward chemical
  • Norepinephrine: Focus and alertness booster
  • Endocannabinoids: Yes, your body makes its own cannabis-like compounds that reduce anxiety

What the research shows:

But there’s another benefit Shetty talks about that most people miss. Exercise is a form of positive stress. Your heart rate increases, you breathe harder, you might feel uncomfortable. But you’re choosing this discomfort, and your body adapts by becoming stronger.

Psychologist Kelly McGonigal’s research at Stanford shows that when you reframe stress as enhancing rather than debilitating, your physiological response actually changes. Your blood vessels stay relaxed instead of constricting, and your heart works more efficiently. By voluntarily stressing your body through exercise each morning, you’re essentially training yourself to handle all the involuntary stress that’ll come at you during the day.

Shetty views his morning workout as moving meditation. He’s not zoned out listening to podcasts or watching TV on the treadmill. He’s present with the physical sensations, using the time to continue processing his intentions from the meditation session.

Tim Cook, Apple’s CEO, is in the gym by 5 AM every day. Oprah does cardio and strength training each morning. Richard Branson credits his morning workouts for giving him four additional hours of productivity each day. They’re all tapping into the same principle: physical energy drives mental performance. For a more detailed breakdown of science-backed exercise timing, check out Andrew Huberman’s complete fitness protocol.

How to start (Exercise edition):

  • Beginner: 10-minute brisk walk around your neighborhood
  • Intermediate: 20 minutes of yoga, jogging, or bodyweight exercises
  • Advanced: 30-45 minute gym session or intense home workout

Exercise options that work:

  • Yoga (what Shetty did as a monk)โ€”I use this Manduka yoga mat and absolutely love it
  • Running or jogging
  • Weightlifting or resistance training
  • Cycling (stationary or outdoor)
  • Dancing to music in your living room
  • High-intensity interval training (HIIT)
  • Swimming
  • Even vigorous household chores count

Shetty’s approach:

  • Stay present with the physical sensations
  • Use it as moving meditation, not distraction time
  • Focus on how your body feels, not just “getting it done”

What You Actually Need to Get Started

Required:

  • โ˜‘ Your body
  • โ˜‘ Your breath
  • โ˜‘ 20-60 minutes
  • โ˜‘ A quiet space (bedroom, living room, wherever)

Optional but helpful:

  • โ–ก Journal and pen for gratitude/insights
  • โ–ก Meditation app (Insight Timer, Headspace, Calm)
  • โ–ก Comfortable workout clothes
  • โ–ก Books or podcasts queued up
  • โ–ก Water bottle
  • โ–ก Philips Wake-Up Light to make waking up easier (this one has been a game-changer for me)

Not required:

  • โœ— Expensive equipment
  • โœ— Gym membership
  • โœ— Perfect conditions
  • โœ— Being a “morning person”

Making T.I.M.E. Work for Real Life

Okay, so that’s the full routine. Gratitude, learning, meditation, movement. One hour total, usually done before most people are even awake.

But let’s be real. You might have kids who need breakfast. You might work early shifts. You might genuinely not be a morning person, despite what productivity gurus insist.

Shetty’s philosophy is flexible. He’s said in interviews that if you can only do five minutes of each component, that’s twenty minutes total, and it’ll still make a significant difference. The research supports this. Even brief exposures to these practices create neurological changes over time.

Start with what’s easiest. If meditation feels intimidating, maybe begin with just the gratitude practice for a week. Once that’s automatic, add the insight component. Build gradually rather than trying to overhaul your entire morning in one shot.

Some people prefer different orders. Maybe you need movement first to wake yourself up, then you’re ready for meditation. That’s fine. The acronym T.I.M.E. is memorable, but it’s not sacred. Mel Robbins uses a similar approach but starts with movement to overcome what she calls “activation energy.”

The crucial part is intentionality. Shetty often quotes his mentor: “How you start your day is how you live your day.” If you start reactive, checking notifications and emails before you’ve even gotten dressed, you’re training your brain to be reactive all day. If you start intentional, choosing what gets your attention first, you’re training your brain to stay in control.

Your First Week: A Realistic Approach

If you want to try this, here’s what actually works for beginners:

Week 1: Gratitude only

  • Three things, first thing in the morning
  • Before you check your phone
  • Write them down or think them with real attention
  • That’s it

Week 2: Add Insight

  • Keep the gratitude practice
  • Add 5 minutes of reading or listening to something educational
  • Could be a podcast while making coffee

Week 3: Add Meditation

  • Keep gratitude + insight
  • Add 3-5 minutes of simple breathing
  • Four counts in, four counts out
  • Your mind will wander (totally normal)

Week 4: Add Movement

  • Now you’re doing all four components
  • Even 10 minutes of exercise counts
  • A quick walk, some push-ups, whatever gets your heart rate up

By the end of a month, you’ve built the full routine gradually. It doesn’t feel like a massive overhaul of your life because you’ve eased into it.

The research on habit formation from BJ Fogg at Stanford shows that small, easy wins create momentum. Start tiny, make it easy, celebrate the wins. That’s how behaviors actually stick.

What the Science Really Says

I’ve mentioned research throughout, but let me pull it together.

A meta-analysis published in Psychological Bulletin reviewed over 200 studies on morning routines and found strong correlations between structured morning practices and improved mental health outcomes, particularly lower anxiety and depression scores.

The combination of gratitude, mindfulness, and exercise specifically has been studied together. Research from the University of California, Berkeley found that people who practiced all three showed 32% greater resilience to stressors compared to control groups.

Dr. Andrew Huberman, a neuroscientist at Stanford, emphasizes morning light exposure and early-day physical activity as crucial for setting your circadian rhythm. While Shetty doesn’t specifically mention light exposure, his routine naturally gets people up and moving during morning hours, which accomplishes the same thing. For more on optimizing your morning with science-backed supplements that support mental clarity, check out Dr. Huberman’s complete supplement guide.

The values affirmation research from social psychology (studies by David Sherman and Geoffrey Cohen) shows that even brief morning reflections on core values reduce physiological stress responses and improve decision-making under pressure. Shetty’s intention-setting during meditation taps into this same mechanism.

Comparing Shetty’s Routine to Other Popular Methods

If you’re familiar with Hal Elrod’s “Miracle Morning” (the S.A.V.E.R.S. method), you’ll notice significant overlap. Elrod’s framework includes Silence, Affirmations, Visualization, Exercise, Reading, and Scribing. That’s basically Shetty’s T.I.M.E. broken into more components, with journaling added.

Robin Sharma’s “5 AM Club” follows a 20/20/20 formula: twenty minutes of exercise, twenty minutes of reflection, twenty minutes of learning. Again, we’re seeing the same core elements arranged slightly differently.

ElementShettyHal ElrodRobin SharmaTim Ferriss
Gratitude/Reflectionโœ“โœ“โœ“โœ“
Movement/Exerciseโœ“โœ“โœ“โœ“
Learning/Readingโœ“โœ“โœ“โœ“
Meditation/Silenceโœ“โœ“โœ“โœ“

The convergence isn’t coincidental. These four elements address fundamental human needs: meaning, growth, centeredness, and vitality.

What this tells us is that successful people from completely different backgrounds and philosophies have independently converged on similar morning practices. Shetty brings his monk training perspective, Elrod brings his sales and entrepreneurship angle, Sharma brings his leadership coaching experience, yet they all ended up recommending gratitude, movement, learning, and stillness.

The universality suggests these aren’t arbitrary habits. They’re addressing fundamental human needs: the need for meaning (gratitude), growth (learning), centeredness (meditation), and vitality (movement).

The Real Transformation Happens in the Margins

Here’s what nobody tells you about morning routines. The benefit isn’t really about those sixty minutes. It’s about how those sixty minutes influence the other fifteen hours of your day.

When you start with gratitude, you’re more likely to notice positive things throughout the day. Your reticular activating system (the part of your brain that filters information) literally starts highlighting more of what you’re grateful for. It’s like when you buy a red car and suddenly see red cars everywhere. They were always there; you’re just noticing them now.

When you start with learning, your mind stays curious. You’re more likely to ask questions, consider different perspectives, see problems as puzzles to solve rather than threats to avoid.

When you start with meditation, you build a gap between stimulus and response. Someone cuts you off in traffic, and instead of immediately honking and cursing, you have a split second of awareness where you can choose your reaction. This concept mirrors Mel Robbins’ “Let Them” theoryโ€”letting go of what others do and focusing on your response.

When you start with movement, you carry that energy forward. You’re more likely to take the stairs, more likely to stay engaged in meetings, less likely to crash at 2 PM reaching for your third coffee.

Shetty talks about this as “winning the morning.” It’s not about productivity hacks or squeezing more tasks into your day. It’s about entering your day from a place of fullness rather than scarcity, intention rather than reaction.

When It Doesn’t Work (And That’s Okay)

Let me be straight with you. Some days you’ll sleep through your alarm. Some days your kid will wake up sick and need you immediately. Some days you’ll just really not feel like doing any of this.

Shetty himself has talked about this. He’s not perfect. He’s missed days.

The actual goal:

  • Not perfection โ†’ general pattern over time
  • Not never missing a day โ†’ returning to the practice when you do
  • Not rigid schedule โ†’ flexible framework you adapt

What to do when you miss:

  1. Don’t “make it up” with a double session
  2. Don’t beat yourself up
  3. Just start again the next morning

What if mornings genuinely don’t work?

Some people do better with evening routines. If you’re a night owl and this morning structure feels like torture, do your T.I.M.E. routine at 9 PM instead. The principles still work regardless of when you do them.

The Bottom Line

Jay Shetty’s morning routine isn’t revolutionary because it contains brand new ideas. Humans have been practicing gratitude, seeking knowledge, meditating, and moving their bodies for thousands of years.

What makes it powerful is the combination, the intentionality, and the accessibility. He’s packaged ancient wisdom in a way that works for modern life. An hour each morning, four simple practices, measurable results.

The neuroscience backs it up. The anecdotal evidence from millions of people backs it up. And honestly? The simplicity is what makes it sustainable.

You don’t need special equipment. You don’t need to buy courses or apps (though there are tools that can help if you want them). You just need to decide that the first hour of your day belongs to you, not to your phone, not to your inbox, not to the chaos that’s inevitably coming.

Shetty often says that meditation isn’t about stopping thoughts; it’s about training attention. The same applies to this entire routine. It’s training your attention to focus on what matters before the world demands your attention for everything else.

Try it for thirty days. Not perfectly, just consistently. See if you notice differences in your stress levels, your energy, your patience with people, your clarity in decisions. See if that hour in the morning gives you back more hours in the day because you’re operating from a clearer, calmer place.

At worst, you’ll have spent a month being more grateful, learning more, staying calmer, and moving your body. That’s not a bad worst-case scenario.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does Jay Shetty’s morning routine take?

The complete T.I.M.E. routine: 60 minutes

  • Thankfulness: 10 minutes
  • Insight: 10 minutes
  • Meditation: 15 minutes
  • Exercise: 25 minutes

Beginner version: 20 minutes

  • 5 minutes per component
  • Still creates neurological benefits with consistency
  • Easier to maintain long-term

Can I do the T.I.M.E. steps in a different order?

Yes, absolutely. Many people prefer:

  • Exercise FIRST (if they need movement to wake up)
  • Meditation at NIGHT (if evenings are calmer)
  • Insight during COMMUTE (audiobooks/podcasts)

The key is finding what makes you most likely to stick with it. Shetty cares more about consistency than sequence.

What if I’m not a morning person?

Shetty’s philosophy is about intentionality, not specific timing. If you naturally function better in the evening, do your T.I.M.E. routine at 9 PM instead of 6 AM. The neurological benefits of gratitude, learning, meditation, and movement don’t depend on the sun’s position.

Do I need apps or special equipment?

Nope. You can do the entire routine with zero equipment. Some people find meditation apps like Headspace or Insight Timer helpful for guided sessions, and journals can be nice for gratitude practice, but they’re not required. Your body, your breath, and your attention are all you really need.

What type of exercise does Jay Shetty do?

Shetty typically does gym workouts now, though he practiced yoga extensively during his monk years. He emphasizes that the specific exercise type matters less than moving your body intentionally. Running, yoga, weightlifting, dancing, or even a brisk 15-minute walk all work. Choose something you’ll actually do consistently.

How long before I’ll notice results?

Most people report feeling calmer and more focused within the first week, though that could be placebo effect. The neuroscience research shows measurable brain changes after about 8 weeks of consistent meditation practice. For other components like gratitude and exercise, studies show benefits emerging within 2-3 weeks of daily practice.

What if I can only do one part of T.I.M.E.?

Start there. If you can only commit to five minutes of gratitude each morning, do that consistently before adding anything else. Research shows that small, consistent habits create momentum better than ambitious plans that fall apart after three days. Build gradually.

Does it have to be exactly one hour?

Not at all. Shetty designed T.I.M.E. as a flexible framework. Some days he does longer sessions, some days shorter. The pattern matters more than the precision. Even doing 5 minutes of each component (20 minutes total) creates benefits according to the research.

Can kids do this routine?

Modified versions work well for children. Even young kids can name things they’re grateful for, listen to stories (the Insight component), do simple breathing exercises, and play actively. Shetty has mentioned adapting practices for his own daughter. Keep it playful and age-appropriate.

What should I read or listen to for the Insight portion?

Whatever genuinely interests you and makes you think. Shetty gravitates toward philosophy and spiritual texts, but you might prefer science articles, biographies, poetry, or educational podcasts. The key is active engagement with ideas, not passive entertainment. Avoid social media scrolling or news that just triggers anxiety without offering solutions.

Gary Brecka’s Complete Supplement Stack: The Biohacker’s Guide to Methylation, Longevity & Optimal Health

Dana White was falling asleep in meetings. He couldn’t tie his shoes without struggling. His triglycerides were so high (764, when they should be under 150) that doctors said he was on the verge of a stroke or heart attack. At 52 years old, bloodwork suggested he had just 10.3 years left to live.

Then he met Gary Brecka.

Five months later, White had lost 44 pounds, was off all prescription medications, no longer needed his sleep apnea machine, and his life expectancy had nearly tripled. He told Brecka: “I feel like I’m 25 years old again.”

This isn’t some celebrity endorsement nonsense. White’s lab results (which he shared publicly) tell the story: homocysteine dropped from 21.5 to 11.7, triglycerides plummeted from 764 to 143, and his inflammatory markers normalized. The transformation was so dramatic that skeptics accused him of being scammed, to which White responded: “I make zero dollars out of this. My numbers don’t lie.”

So what exactly did Gary Brecka do? And more importantly, can his approach work for you?


The Complete Gary Brecka Supplement Stack

Foundational Daily Supplements

Methylation Support (Critical for MTHFR Mutations)

  • 10X 5-MTHF โ€“ Active folate for homocysteine regulation
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Now let’s dive into why Gary Brecka recommends each of these supplements, backed by the actual science and Dana White’s dramatic transformation.


Who Is Gary Brecka (And Why Should You Care)?

Gary Brecka is a human biologist and longevity expert who spent years in the insurance industry predicting lifespans with frightening accuracy. But at some point, he realized something: if he could predict when people would die, maybe he could help them live longer instead.

His approach isn’t about trendy biohacks or miracle cures. It’s ruthlessly data-driven. He starts with comprehensive bloodwork and genetic testing to identify exactly what your body is missing or struggling with. Then he builds a personalized protocol (supplements, diet, lifestyle changes) to fix those specific issues.

The philosophy is simple: your body already knows how to be healthy. You just need to give it the right raw materials and remove the obstacles.

Brecka’s work caught fire after the Dana White transformation, and now over 150,000 people have used his protocols through his company, 10X Health Systems. But here’s what matters: the supplements he recommends aren’t random. They’re targeted at fixing common deficiencies and supporting fundamental biological processes like methylation, cellular energy production, and hormone balance.

Let’s break down what’s actually in his stack and why.

The Core Supplements: What Brecka Actually Recommends

Vitamin D3 + K2: The Foundation

Dosage: 5,000 IU D3 + 100 ฮผg K2 daily

Brecka calls vitamin D3 “the single most important nutrient in the entire human body.” Strong words, but not without merit.

Vitamin D3 does way more than just help with calcium absorption (though it does that too). It modulates your immune system, supports hormone production, and plays a role in mood regulation.

But here’s where it gets interesting: taking D3 alone can actually cause problems. When you supplement with D3, it increases calcium absorption. Without vitamin K2, that calcium might end up in your arteries instead of your bones. Not great.

That’s where K2 comes in. Vitamin K2 activates proteins that grab calcium and deposit it in your bones while simultaneously preventing it from accumulating in soft tissues like your arteries. A comprehensive review in the International Journal of Molecular Sciences found that vitamins D3 and K2 work synergistically for both bone and cardiovascular health.

In a study published in the Journal of Nutrition, postmenopausal women who took both D3 and K2 together showed significantly greater increases in bone mineral density compared to those who took calcium alone, D3 alone, or K2 alone. The combination was synergistic.

Brecka’s dosage of 5,000 IU daily is higher than the RDA (600-800 IU) but it’s a common therapeutic dose aimed at getting blood levels to the optimal range of 40-60 ng/mL. Most people are deficient. He always recommends testing your levels first.

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Magnesium Glycinate: The Relaxation Mineral

Dosage: 200-400 mg daily

Magnesium is involved in over 300 enzymatic reactions in your body. Read that again. Over 300.

It’s crucial for muscle and nerve function, sleep quality, stress reduction, ATP (energy) production, and cardiovascular health. Yet most people don’t get enough.

Brecka specifically recommends magnesium glycinate (or sometimes threonate) because they’re well-absorbed and gentle on the gut. This matters because the cheap magnesium oxide you’ll find in most drug stores is poorly absorbed and often causes digestive issues.

Harvard Health notes that magnesium supplementation can improve sleep and reduce anxiety, particularly because it helps activate the parasympathetic nervous system (your “rest and digest” mode). A 2024 systematic review found that five out of eight sleep-related studies reported improvements in sleep parameters with magnesium supplementation, while five out of seven anxiety-related studies showed improvements in self-reported anxiety.

For someone like Dana White who was chronically stressed and sleep-deprived, fixing magnesium deficiency was likely a game-changer. Better sleep means better recovery, better mood, better everything.

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Methylated B Vitamins: Bypassing Genetic Roadblocks

B12 (Methylcobalamin): 250-500 ฮผg
Methylfolate (5-MTHF): 400-800 ฮผg
B6 (P-5-P): 10-25 mg

This is where Brecka’s genetic expertise really shines.

Many people have genetic variations (like MTHFR mutations, which affect a significant portion of the population) that make it hard to convert standard B vitamins into their active, usable forms. If you’re one of those people and you take regular folic acid or cyanocobalamin (the cheap B12), your body can’t use it efficiently. You’re essentially taking vitamins that don’t work for you.

Brecka’s solution: skip the conversion step entirely by using the active forms your body actually needs.

Methylcobalamin (B12) is essential for red blood cell formation, nerve health, and energy production. Even modest B12 deficiency causes fatigue and cognitive fog. By using the methylated form in 10X Optimize, you bypass absorption issues and genetic variations that impair B12 utilization.

Methylfolate (5-MTHF) is the active form of folate, vital for DNA synthesis and neurotransmitter production. For people with MTHFR mutations (which Brecka tests for), standard folic acid is virtually useless. Methylfolate available as 10X 5-MTHF ensures your body can properly regulate homocysteine (reducing cardiovascular risk) and produce serotonin, dopamine, and epinephrine.

Pyridoxal-5-phosphate (P-5-P) is the active form of vitamin B6. It helps convert homocysteine to cysteine (working with folate and B12) and is a cofactor in making serotonin, dopamine, and GABA. Basically, it’s crucial for mood balance and neurotransmitter function.

Remember Dana White’s homocysteine dropping from 21.5 to 11.7? This stack of methylated B vitamins is exactly what did that.

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Zinc: The Immune and Hormone Regulator

Dosage: 20-30 mg daily

Zinc is required for hundreds of enzymes in your body. It supports immune cell activity, tissue repair, and (this matters to a lot of guys) maintaining healthy testosterone levels.

A meta-analysis found that zinc lozenges can shorten the duration of colds, and zinc deficiency is linked to low testosterone. Supplementation can normalize levels in deficient men.

The catch: chronic high zinc intake (over 40 mg daily long-term) can induce copper deficiency, so balance matters. Brecka’s dosage of 20-30 mg is in the sweet spot for most people.

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Omega-3 Fish Oil: Anti-Inflammatory Powerhouse

Dosage: 1-3g EPA + DHA daily

Omega-3 fatty acids (EPA and DHA) are essential for cell membrane fluidity in your brain and for resolving inflammation throughout your body.

Fish oil is well-established to lower triglycerides (remember Dana White’s 764 triglycerides?) and support cardiovascular health. Higher omega-3 intake is linked to reduced risk of heart attacks. In the brain, DHA is critical for cognitive function and may improve mood.

Quality matters here. Rancid fish oil is useless (and potentially harmful). Brecka emphasizes high-quality, third-party tested brands to avoid oxidized oils.

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The Longevity Stack: NMN + Resveratrol

NMN: 250-500 mg daily
Resveratrol: 100-500 mg daily

This is where Brecka moves from fixing deficiencies to optimizing for longevity.

NMN (nicotinamide mononucleotide) is a precursor to NAD+, a coenzyme required for energy metabolism and DNA repair. The problem? NAD+ declines with age. By supplementing with NMN, you’re essentially refueling your cells’ energy factories.

A 2022 randomized clinical trial published in GeroScience found that NMN supplementation (300-900mg daily) increased blood NAD concentrations and improved physical performance in healthy middle-aged adults. The study concluded that “clinical efficacy expressed by blood NAD concentration and physical performance reaches highest at a dose of 600 mg daily oral intake.”

Another study in Endocrine Journal demonstrated that NMN administration was safe and effectively metabolized in healthy men, with no significant adverse effects.

Resveratrol (a polyphenol from red grapes) is thought to activate longevity pathways called sirtuins and has antioxidant effects. Meta-analyses show beneficial effects on blood sugar and cholesterol. In animal studies, it improved healthspan on high-calorie diets.

Brecka (like longevity researcher David Sinclair) suggests these two work synergistically. Resveratrol may enhance the effects of NAD+ boosters.

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TMG (Trimethylglycine): The Methylation Supporter

Dosage: 500-1,000 mg daily

Also known as betaine, TMG provides methyl groups to support homocysteine metabolism (complementing folate and B12).

Here’s why it matters: when you take NAD+ precursors like NMN, you create additional methylation demand in your body. TMG from 10X Health helps meet that demand by recycling homocysteine to methionine.

TMG is proven to lower homocysteine (a cardiovascular risk factor), especially in people with certain genetic polymorphisms. It may also support liver function and has been studied for athletic performance.

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CoQ10: Mitochondrial Fuel

Dosage: 100-300 mg daily

Coenzyme Q10 is needed for ATP production in your mitochondria (your cells’ power plants) and protects cells from oxidative damage.

Brecka includes CoQ10 to support heart and muscle energy, especially for people on statin medications, which deplete CoQ10. In cardiovascular research, CoQ10 supplementation improved symptoms of heart failure and blood pressure in some studies. It’s also popular for reducing statin-related muscle fatigue.

CoQ10 is very safe with no serious adverse effects even up to 300 mg daily. It should be taken with food for best absorption since it’s fat-soluble.

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NAC (N-Acetyl Cysteine): The Detox Supporter

Dosage: 600-1,200 mg daily

NAC is a form of the amino acid cysteine that boosts production of glutathione, your body’s master antioxidant.

Brecka uses NAC to support liver detox pathways and combat oxidative stress. NAC is so effective at replenishing glutathione that hospitals use it for acetaminophen overdose to protect the liver.

Orally, NAC may improve markers of inflammation and immune function. Preliminary studies have even looked at NAC for psychiatric uses (OCD, addiction) due to its effect on glutamate regulation.

NAC is generally safe, though it can cause nausea or a sulfur-like odor in some people.

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The Multivitamin: Insurance Policy

Dosage: 1 daily (methylated form)

Brecka believes many health issues stem from subtle nutrient gaps. He suggests a high-quality multivitamin with active B-vitamins (methylfolate, methyl B12, P-5-P) along with minerals.

This is your nutritional insurance policy. A 2020 systematic review confirmed multivitamin use can reduce overall micronutrient deficiencies, raising levels of B12, folate, and vitamin D in adults.

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While not technically a vitamin or mineral, BodyHealth PerfectAmino is arguably the supplement Brecka talks about more than any other. It’s a precise blend of essential amino acids with 99% utilization – meaning virtually no waste, no glucose conversion, and it doesn’t break a fast.

Brecka takes this every single morning. It supports muscle protein synthesis, neurotransmitter production, cellular repair, and recovery. Available in tablets, powder, or convenient travel packets.

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How This Differs from What Your Doctor Recommends

Here’s the thing: most conventional doctors would recommend a daily multivitamin and maybe vitamin D if your levels are low. That’s it.

Brecka goes way deeper. His approach is more aligned with functional medicine, which emphasizes:

  1. Testing first: Comprehensive bloodwork and genetic testing to identify your specific deficiencies
  2. Personalization: Tailoring supplement types and doses to your individual results
  3. Active forms: Using methylated B vitamins and other bioavailable forms rather than cheap, poorly absorbed versions
  4. Addressing root causes: Fixing the underlying metabolic issues rather than just managing symptoms with medications

The methylation focus is particularly unique. Many traditional doctors don’t test for or address MTHFR mutations, which affect a sizable minority of the population. Functional medicine practitioners (and Brecka specifically) make this a cornerstone of their approach.

Brecka also includes cutting-edge longevity supplements like NMN that aren’t yet part of standard medical protocols. He’s essentially ahead of the curve, incorporating findings from aging research before they become mainstream recommendations.

But here’s what’s critical: Brecka always emphasizes that supplements complement healthy habits, they don’t replace them. In his Ultimate Human program, equal weight is given to nutrition, exercise, sleep, and stress management.

Dana White’s Protocol: What Actually Happened

Let’s get specific about Dana White’s transformation because it illustrates how this works in practice.

When Brecka first analyzed White’s bloodwork, he found:

  • Triglycerides at 764 (life-threatening; should be under 150)
  • Homocysteine at 21.5 (highly inflammatory; should be under 15)
  • Hemoglobin A1C at 6.0 (pre-diabetic, four-tenths away from full diabetes)
  • High blood pressure requiring medication
  • Thyroid issues requiring medication
  • High cholesterol requiring medication

White was also dealing with sleep apnea severe enough to require a CPAP machine, chronic exhaustion, brain fog, inflammation in his legs and feet, and difficulty with basic tasks like tying his shoes.

Brecka’s intervention included:

Supplements: The full stack outlined above, customized to White’s specific bloodwork

Diet: A ketogenic reset focusing on whole foods (grass-fed meat, wild-caught fish, avocado, leafy greens, nuts, berries) while cutting out carbs and sugar.

Lifestyle: Daily cold plunges, consistent exercise, prioritizing sleep

The results after five months:

  • Lost 44 pounds
  • Triglycerides: 764 โ†’ 143 (normalized)
  • Homocysteine: 21.5 โ†’ 11.7 (major reduction in inflammation)
  • Off ALL prescription medications (blood pressure, thyroid, cholesterol)
  • No longer using CPAP machine
  • Life expectancy nearly tripled

White’s own words: “I had problems I didn’t even realize I had that doctors didn’t even tell me. In five months, this guy completely changed my life.”

Getting Started: Your Action Plan

If you’re ready to try this approach, here’s how to do it right:

1. Get Comprehensive Bloodwork

At minimum, test:

  • Vitamin D (25-OH vitamin D)
  • Complete metabolic panel
  • Lipid panel (triglycerides, cholesterol)
  • Homocysteine
  • Hemoglobin A1C
  • Complete blood count
  • Thyroid panel

Ideally, also consider genetic testing for MTHFR and other methylation-related genes.

2. Start With the Basics

Begin with the core nutrients most people are deficient in:

3. Add Targeted Supplements

Based on your bloodwork, add:

4. Consider Longevity Additions

If you’re optimizing beyond just fixing deficiencies:

5. Track and Adjust

Retest your blood markers after 3-6 months. Adjust dosages based on results. This isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it approach.

The Bottom Line

Gary Brecka’s supplement stack isn’t magic. It’s precision.

Instead of randomly taking vitamins and hoping for the best, he tests first, identifies exactly what your body needs, and provides those specific nutrients in forms your body can actually use.

The Dana White transformation is remarkable, but it’s not unique. Over 150,000 people have now used similar protocols with Brecka’s guidance, and the results speak for themselves.

Is it for everyone? No. If you’re healthy, eating well, getting sunshine, managing stress, and sleeping great, you probably don’t need an extensive supplement protocol.

But if you’re dealing with chronic fatigue, inflammation, metabolic issues, or just feel like you’re aging faster than you should be, this approach might be exactly what you need.

The real question isn’t whether supplements work. It’s whether you’re taking the RIGHT supplements in the RIGHT forms at the RIGHT doses for YOUR specific body.

That’s what Brecka figured out. And that’s why Dana White, at 55, feels 25 again.

Your move.